Most of us have moments of unhappiness or dissatisfaction with our lives. This is because some element of ourselves is empty. If words are said that upset us, it is because we are needing approval and seeking our well-being externally. Yet when something or someone unpleasant comes into our path, we tend to do one of two things: we blame them, or we blame ourselves.
An initial reaction to unpleasant situations is human nature, and should be recognized and accepted. A wise Being gave me just such advice recently, with the passing of my father. First you are allowed to have whatever emotion comes up. Know that this emotion is in you and turn your attention to understanding all that you feel. It is important to say that this does not mean that you should indulge in negative feelings, but if you think these feelings are wrong, it will create self-judgment and guilt. Rather, if we understand that our humanness is connected to our Divine, we do not indulge in these feelings but search for the gap that is creating them. What is lacking inside us is what allows this reaction. The second phase of emotion is introspection. Remember that neither we nor the other guy are to blame for any situation. How do we deal with negative behavior in a divine and loving way? To ignore an action that causes harm to others does not allow growth. Yet, to throw ourselves headfirst into any event, keeps it going.
Both feeling the emotions and later, introspection, are necessary for growth. Now we have choices to make. Do I play soap opera with life and call these characters names, or do I clear myself of unhealthy emotion? When we draw light into ourselves and ask to dissolve all that is unhealthy within us, we change ourselves and the world. We make ourselves whole and full of light where we were void. Some tasks are easy, and some take a great amount of effort. It seems that we, as light workers, are being asked to drag all of our suppressed skeletons out of the closet and become whole. We understand that this is not about blame, but about doing. Clearing ourselves in the light is how we contribute to the collective consciousness and move ourselves and this world into the light.